Alias The Terminator
We all use aliases, well maybe not all as I know there are a few older chaps and chapesses who only have the one email address (usually xxxx @ btinternet or aol.com) but if you have multiple emails for different reasons you may have tried and succeeded at making yourself an unique name. Don’t you just hate it when you’ve been racking your brains for a variation of honeybunny which doesn’t automatically get the “this identity is taken would you like honeybunny1775884?”
The idea of using aliases, particularly with regard to your email name, was to help hide your real identity from those who want to use your real identity as their alias in order to perpetrate some kind of fraud or scam. This is less of a concern than it used to be.
If you are using an alter ego the scenario changes as this is very different to the individuality of an unique name. Alias The Terminator is heading towards hiding yourself rather than showing a streak of individuality and for someone to grow and become the go to expert or foremost authority hiding behind a façade will lead to problems. Far better to develop your uniqueness as what sets you apart from the pack, and to highlight this is yet another path you need to find on the journey to fulfilment.
Most often The Terminator is hiding what they believe as something deficient about their personality and are using a strong alter ego to boost their confidence. This can work for some but to the majority the alter ego won’t stack up when reality bites and you have to actually relate on a one to one basis either physically or as part of an online developing relationship. The relationships you have with either clients, friends, lovers or sometimes especially family cannot survive the strain that an alter ego forces you to create and maintain. It’s like lying; those who live a life based on lies to cover their inadequacies or mistakes create internal stress trying to remember what lies they told to whom and eventually it all falls apart as friendships break under the weight of distrust.
As an alias The Terminator also acts as a front to hide from people as a threatening character and keeping in character is only easy for serious practitioners such as actors. If you are hiding behind the threat of retribution or vengeance you are going to be making more enemies than friends which isn’t the desired outcome of a growth program.
Think about what you call yourself even in terms of email identities and choose a name that reflects or promotes your character or essence to help people to understand where you are coming from
© Rick Grain 6 June 2016