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Healthy lifestyle

Yoga stretch

Trying to maintain a healthy lifestyle can be difficult if you are constantly under pressure to run or maintain a business. There are numerous ways to set up your life to ensure you do some of the obvious things everyone should be doing if they want to keep healthy, like movement, good eating and resting adequately but this depends on what type of person you are. Those who have plans, goals, written agendas, diaries or lists can be the easiest to help with putting into place a healthy life plan as it is just the way you add small changes to their existing routines. People like me who basically have no plan because much of my day is spent reacting to requests, queries or problems to solve can find it hard to get a structured lifestyle system. Having a focussed approach to health requires me to set aside a defined time to do stuff like making my juice for lunch.

Floor exercise

Exercise is, for me, very hit and miss as far as I will try to do a twenty-minute workout daily with standard easy stuff using no equipment (you don’t need to stow away the floor after running on the spot or doing press-ups rather than having a rowing machine or yoga mat) but this rarely happens even though I know I will feel better for it. I substitute this with taking as much time as I can spare parking at the furthest corner of the car park or a couple of streets away from the bank, shop or wherever and fast walking. I usually run upstairs and walk down if possible rather than using a lift.

All the things I do to keep mobile are really tiny fractional events which I hope add up to a healthy section of my life but this is subjective and I am aware that I really should be doing more. I love to walk in the countryside especially along the canal towpaths but the time it takes to do this is time I find difficult or even impossible to set aside.

Canal walk

Resting is essential to a healthy lifestyle and like eating and exercising finding the time to rest other than when I fall asleep in front of the TV or more likely in front of the computer I’m busy working on isn’t the same as resting.

Headphones cans


I well remember the days when I could lie back with cans on and listen to the whole of one or more of my favourite albums. That is as restful as anything I can think of but I can’t say when was the last time I actually did just that. Whatever you do to really rest should take time away from your other worries and anxieties or the whole exercise will have little, if any, value.

As with all coaching and especially LifeSignposting use what you know and what you have achieved for yourself to adapt things to fit and work for your clients so they get the most benefit from the changes you are helping them to achieve.

® Rick Grain

Images as always courtesy of Pixabay



What do we think of when the word prophecy is mentioned? The end of the world? Nostradamus? Mohammed? Christ? Astrology? Russell Grant?


All these are or claim to be either gifted or blessed with foresight – the ablility to foresee or predict the future. But is that what they can do? Or is there some other force at work able to implant ideas into the minds of these prophets or stargazers?

Perhaps it is a little of both but maybe it is neither and prophecies come to fruition purely by coincidence. We have all heard the phrase “self fulfilling prophecy” when what we mean is something which is obviously cause and effect. “If you stick your fingers in that light socket you’ll get a shock!” is maybe a little blatant as an example but what if this is more often what happens when a prophecy comes to pass? Could the prophet be able to read critical signs which most others miss and then “prophesy” what must occur as a result of cause and effect?


What of astrologers? They make a living by “reading” the stars and their placement in the heavens and specific times and “foretelling” you future or predicting an occurence or other outcome, similarly Tarot cards, bones, intestines and many objects claim to be “readable” by adepts who then give you a roadmap of your life past, present and future. Can the word prophecy be used to describe a system of reading the signs from such random and varying things?

Whatever the truths put out there by prophets actually are or could be construed as I leave to your imagination.

Daily prompt [Prophecy]

© Rick Grain 26 June 2016

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Alias The Terminator

Alias The Terminator


We all use aliases, well maybe not all as I know there are a few older chaps and chapesses who only have the one email address (usually xxxx @ btinternet or aol.com) but if you have multiple emails for different reasons you may have tried and succeeded at making yourself an unique name. Don’t you just hate it when you’ve been racking your brains for a variation of honeybunny which doesn’t automatically get the “this identity is taken would you like honeybunny1775884?”

The idea of using aliases, particularly with regard to your email name, was to help hide your real identity from those who want to use your real identity as their alias in order to perpetrate some kind of fraud or scam. This is less of a concern than it used to be.


If you are using an alter ego the scenario changes as this is very different to the individuality of an unique name. Alias The Terminator is heading towards hiding yourself rather than showing a streak of individuality and for someone to grow and become the go to expert or foremost authority hiding behind a façade will lead to problems. Far better to develop your uniqueness as what sets you apart from the pack, and to highlight this is yet another path you need to find on the journey to fulfilment.

Most often The Terminator is hiding what they believe as something deficient about their personality and are using a strong alter ego to boost their confidence. This can work for some but to the majority the alter ego won’t stack up when reality bites and you have to actually relate on a one to one basis either physically or as part of an online developing relationship. The relationships you have with either clients, friends, lovers or sometimes especially family cannot survive the strain that an alter ego forces you to create and maintain. It’s like lying; those who live a life based on lies to cover their inadequacies or mistakes create internal stress trying to remember what lies they told to whom and eventually it all falls apart as friendships break under the weight of distrust.

Break apart

As an alias The Terminator also acts as a front to hide from people as a threatening character and keeping in character is only easy for serious practitioners such as actors. If you are hiding behind the threat of retribution or vengeance you are going to be making more enemies than friends which isn’t the desired outcome of a growth program.

Stand out

Think about what you call yourself even in terms of email identities and choose a name that reflects or promotes your character or essence to help people to understand where you are coming from

© Rick Grain 6 June 2016

Time to choose

Can you find your way to ….?

If you drive a lot, maybe as part of your job, or just because you like to go places, you probably use a satellite navigation tool like TomTom or Garvin or Via Michelin or any number of others and you will know that if you rely on total navigation by computer generated voice you will get where you are going but you will need it to find your way back. (Free tip here: Look at a map and only program in the last few miles of your journey)


There are several theories as to why this is the case but I’m not going into that because I am using this example to highlight the problem with asking a direct question and getting a finite answer. Now the answer could be correct or not but the problem is that you didn’t think of it yourself. It was handed to you on a plate and that makes it instantly forgettable so you could find yourself in the exact same dilemma at some future point and having to ask someone the exact same question again. Being given a solution to a problem only helps you at a future time if you keep repeating the answer to yourself over and over again like a mantra or if you can remember that far back learning your times table by rote. The sing song “once two is two, two twos are four,” made you remember that forever and while there are still some educators who think this unnecessary it remains the only way your brain can instantly give you the answer to seven times six without reaching for a calculator.

The same problem with a provided solution repeated after a short passage of time renders most people’s ability to solve a dilemma or puzzle for themselves inoperative.

Signposting doesn’t give you the answer but merely helps you to find the way to a solution you arrive at by yourself which will be all the more helpful because of that fact. Trying to find answers to questions on the net, for example, gets you lots of solutions or access to guides or even outright, in your face, the Answer below your query. This is great if you can access the net but if you are in the far north of Scotland unless you are fortunate or rich enough to own a satellite phone you will have to find another way to solve dilemmas.

Journey directions

I liken the process of signposting to getting you to turn around and see the signpost that was there all the time because when you get to really know there are signposts for everything you may need to solve in your life you begin to know where to look for them without any help. For some this is a short journey and for others the distance varies but be assured it is a journey and these always have an end. For most people the first problem to solve is to find the beginning.

Journeys end

© Rick Grain 29 May 2016

Changing attitude

Your choice? Fear or confidence?

Your choice? Fear or confidence?

noun: fear; plural noun: fears

An unpleasant emotion caused by the threat of danger, pain, or harm.

Synonyms:  terror, fright, fearfulness, horror, alarm, panic, agitation, trepidation, dread, consternation, dismay, distress.

What is it that holds you back? Most people will cite fear at the heart of what doesn’t drive them to achieve, but is it really fear? “I’m afraid of the consequences if…”

Does the thought of a possible action fill you with terror? Or is it in reality just trepidation?

Like most of the language we learned at an early age it is this use of the words fear or afraid that colours our judgement. Because the true situation is not that we are terrified of the outcome of what we can do but rather that the unknown consequence is something that we feel a level of consternation about. You will understand that statement better if you think about, for example, learning to drive. The first time you are in charge of a vehicle is not usually terrifying but the trepidation will make you weak at the knees, so it’s a good job you are sitting down, dry in the mouth and all the other things we associate with the word fear, but it isn’t fear or we would not do it.

What makes it different? You usually have an instructor sitting beside you who talks you through the processes and gives you a measure of confidence. The same applies to adrenalin rides in theme parks. You ride them because you see others coming off the ride not looking terrified and you trust in the operators to have the safety features fully checked and working properly.

To progress and change your attitude to this “fear” the realisation or acceptance that we misuse the word is all that is needed to overcome it.

Cancel fear, no fear

Cancel fear

Psychology today has this to say: “Fear is a vital response to physical and emotional danger—if we didn’t feel it, we couldn’t protect ourselves from legitimate threats. But often we fear situations that are far from life-or-death, and thus hang back for no good reason. Traumas or bad experiences can trigger a fear response within us that is hard to quell. Yet exposing ourselves to our personal demons is the best way to move past them.”

“Personal demons” is a harsh and inappropriate term to describe where you are at with your development but the statement is valid because the question you should ask yourself is really “What will happen if I don’t take this action?” The answer is nothing and you will get nothing in response and feel no trepidation or have any concern and you will not grow.

The key is in the first sentence: “Fear is a vital response to physical and emotional danger” Taking a step towards developing yourself is neither a physical nor an emotional danger so take the plunge and move towards confidence. Just do it and deal with the result. It is learning to cope with consequences that makes us grow.

If you need some help with this or just someone to hold your hand while you take that step leave a comment.


Action go for it

Go for it

Your Choice – Passion or Stress?

Development, Passion, Stress Relief, Better Way, Another Way, Life Choice

Worried, stressed, lost your way

Your choice? Passion or stress?

We all feel stress from time to time and if it gets too bad the results can range from constant headaches caused by tense muscles to heart failure or stroke and possibly death. Is there a way that your job or business can be the cause of this and is there a way to alleviate or reduce or even remove the stress altogether?

One possibility is that there is a similar emotive force which has a very different action on the mind and body. That is passion. Whether the cause or effect of passion is your business, your love or maybe even your sport or pastime the resulting feelings don’t usually have the kind of devastating consequences that stress has but why do we feel one and not the other when circumstances may be the same?

Growth Blindfold, Development, Passion, Stress Relief, Better Way, Another Way

Find Another Way

It is not just that you maybe own the business and your manager doesn’t have the need or the same passion you feel because I have had experience of feeling the passion as an employee while the owner was on heart pills and blood pressure medicines due to the stress. You can let the build-up of pressures get to you and then the effects on your health can drag you down while you still have the resulting work load to cope with which adds to the pressure until something has to give.

It is easier to accept that while you can’t do everything, you can learn to manage the stress.

Even the most passionate people can feel stressed especially if there is a glitch or two within what you do so that the results aren’t what you had hoped for and the internalised striving for perfection creates pressure. This is where you can learn to utilise inner resources to help you cope and to do this you have to let go of that perfectionism. To a degree this is a common problem for anyone with a passion in that they won’t accept less than a perfect outcome as part of life.

This is the key which can unlock a better you, can allow you to grow and can help you to see that imperfection isn’t only a fact of life but also presents one of the greatest opportunities to improve. Think Edison for where most people would have given his quest up as unreachable he just saw another way his lightbulb didn’t work.

If you want help with finding your way to accepting the imperfections of life and utilising those things as opportunities rather than frustrations, you may need some help in seeing which way they are pointing as they are surely all signposting you to options and solutions which the simple frustrations can hide from your eyes.

Growth Blindfold, Development, Passion, Stress Relief, Better Way, Another Way

Remove the Blindfold to Growth

The mechanics of this can be explained this way:

Frustrations and problems can easily be allowed to act as a shield or maybe a curtain. Which of these is true for you may correlate to how much passion you have for what do1. Even as a curtain can be pushed aside or is maybe made of voile so is nearly transparent a shield can block the view of a way ahead or blind you to a way out.

Life signposting – an easier way to growth and dealing with the frustrations of life.

© Rick Grain Monday, 02 May 2016


1 Correlations between passion and internally blocking yourself from seeing a way out of problems are another subject I will visit at a later stage